Finding relationships that feed my soul

Finding new friendships is just like dating to find a partner. 
You try someone on and weigh the possibilities, will this person be a plus or a minus?
A plus is having a person beside you laughing at the same jokes
A plus is someone whose very presence makes up want to be better
A plus is ALWAYS someone we respect..... 
A plus is having someone on your side rooting for your success in whatever way they can.... 
A plus is someone who DOES NOT make YOU their obsession...
(stay clear of these clowns....nothing creepier that someone who thinks you complete them.......that is a PURE American lie/myth that leads you to burn and crash fast)
A plus is someone that is as passionate about ANYTHING (can be bugs for all I care, but it cannot be YOU). 

NOW, A minus is a person who feels life owes him/her and who very often has woven a whole complicated life narrative in which their actions are a direct warped response to all the hurt they've lived. RUN!! like NOW!!!
A minus is a person who acts like they know better than you (You can know more than me, but don't be a jerk; contempt is poison to all relationships). 
A minus is any behavior that is non-congruent to past behaviors. In English we know this as"sketchy". 
A minus is an uneven response to a tough situation....or even traffic. 

With rules so high and deep no wonder we have a hard time finding our tribe.... But once we do it's like butta'!  

The instinct to trust or not to trust

I have been thinking a lot about trust and instinct lately, and their connection to one another . I sat watching the Democratic debate two days ago and realized there were two parts of me hearing the debate. There was the logical part of me and then there was the instinctual part of me. Since I have been placing a lot more credence on instincts I naturally trusted some candidates over others purely for how genuine they sounded to me. The morning after the debate I shared these thoughts with my husband and we both came to the conclusion that some of the candidates simple listen to their consultants way too much...listening and surrounding oneself by too many consultant is like having way too many cooks in the kitchen, it's a recipe for disaster. There is a difference between robotically following what a consultant tells you to do and what you KNOW to be true. Some of these candidates have let fear get in their hearts and are now operating on someone else's fear, on top of their own. Genuineness is something one instinctually feels. The older I get the more I value how I feel around someone.  
             What does trust have to do with it? Trust makes all the amazing things in the world happen. When two individual come together to make an amazing business or marriage or friendship, trust is the glue that secures relationships. Yet, in 100% trusting our instincts (which essentially is trusting yourself) do we begin to even have the chance of truly knowing how to choose the right people to trust with our lives. Trust and instinct are like guardian angels, here to help us navigate life more safely with the right people by our side. 

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